Coping With Laziness and Low Motivation
Life is hard at times we lose our drive.
I remember going through a period of my life where I lost a lot of motivation. I worked hard, a lot harder than most people around me realized. I smoked loads of weed to cope with a lot of the harsh realities of life, and my work rate was sub-optimal; this was around when I was studying for my master's in chemistry.
I became depressed and felt I wasted time and energy prioritizing what other people thought was wrong. My business ideas/side projects were amounting to nothing. I failed so much and sacrificed so many opportunities.
Some of my closest people would belittle my work, saying things that would demotivate me. They called me lazy because I would prioritize study or my crafts over trivial tasks other people thought were important. Nobody truly believed in my ambitions, they would issue false praises at the thought of not upsetting me, but at the end of the day, you can feel it when people do not believe in you. People do not like expending energy on tasks offering little instant gratification; this is why the people encouraged me to "get a job" or told me I had to "do more" because my current work rate was unacceptable in their eyes.
I did not get paid for my work; it made people lose respect for my crafts; this was the most demotivating experience that I had ever gone through. The truth is they had no idea what my work rate ever was; some had never even laid eyes on me while I was working. I went through a bout of depression; it stripped me of my resolve and work ethic and made me truly lazy, nearly giving up on my entrepreneurial ambitions.
A person is lazy if they can carry out a task but refuse to do so out of unwillingness to expend energy on it. Instead, they perform the activity half-heartedly or get distracted by less strenuous/essential activities. Do not misunderstand; you can postpone tasks to commit to other more important priorities; in modern life, long term strategies and effort making lead to the best outcomes. In more ancient times, laziness may have served as an evolutionary advantage.
Conservation of energy is practical when you have to compete for scarce resources. Laziness is instinctual; our ambitions or perspective can override our instincts. Some of us are more future-orientated than others. Some of us are still bound to our instincts, still trying to conserve energy, more ready to take from others than work.
Low motivation can lead to laziness; if this state of mind has too much influence on your behaviour, it is unlikely that you will get much done. Gradually, you start to lose many of the skills honed throughout your life, lowering your ability to work efficiently. How can we address these issues with poor motivation and laziness? What are the causes and solutions?
Never View Yourself as Incompetent
If you do not believe in yourself, then it is already game-over. Self-compassion is a far more productive thought process than self-hating, especially as you face adversity and struggle. Loving yourself remembering your strengths and capabilities will allow you to keep coming back from repeated failure. You will be motivated to work on your weaknesses and improve instead of feeling insecure blaming yourself for your downfalls while achieving nothing; self-hate is harmful to your mental health.
If you view yourself as incompetent, you will always shy away from the most significant challenges and obstacles of life. Fear of failure will overwhelm you, making it so you will not want to work, as you don't want to be held accountable for the poor results you think you will present. Similarly, if you view yourself as undeserving or not worthy, you will be less willing to compete. You'll be more likely to psyche yourself out using self for filling prophecies: that is, not working on a task and then telling yourself it was okay because you would have just failed anyway; it's a lazy attitude.
People are about as intelligent as they make their minds; it is rarely a matter of intellect. It is about focus. Don't ever call yourself stupid; it won't do you any good. We operate better whilst maintaining a positive frame of mind. It is unlikely that the people around you will share the same enthusiasm for your goals as you do. Therefore, you must function as your pillar of strength, so you won't ever have to seek validation from other people. Eliminate all negative thoughts from your mind and distance yourself from any negative energy. If people don't believe in you, move on and don't wait around for people to start taking you seriously. Finally, never argue against your goal. Never fixate on its difficulty or the time it will take to complete. Get on with it.
Are You Working With Zero Purpose
Think about the things you do daily; if the tasks aren't taking you in the direction you want to go in. it is no wonder why you lack motivation. If your work doesn't fulfil you, you will be more likely to procrastinate and distract yourself. If you dreamed of becoming a professional footballer, it would be no surprise to find that you'd lack motivation while stacking shelves for your part-time job.
Thinking positively of the task is also essential; inevitably, we have to carry out tasks that we do not like out of sheer necessity. That footballer stacking shelves shouldn't focus on the tedious task at hand; they should fixate on their paycheck and how the extra money can further their ambition. Similarly, if you're planning an exercise routine, you should fixate on your dream body instead of thinking about how you can't be bothered to run on a treadmill. You can recharge your motivation by looking at the problem differently.
Before I go any further, I also need to stress that your motivation should involve some personal gain. No people-pleasing. It will drain you. It will make you forget what it is you want. This behaviour will hollow you out and do serious harm to the mind. Become more aware of your needs balance your needs with the requirements of others; you may have to do some self-discovery or otherwise self-destruct.
Patience is also a good virtue, and inpatient people make bad decisions. If you're not capable of waiting for the right opportunity or information to present itself, you will perform poorly; instead, you act on impulse or out of desperation. You know that feeling "I should have gotten there by now"; it is shared by many. Most people underestimate the length of time it will take them to complete a task. The length of time can become a source of stress that demotivates you. Good things take time, and impatient people never get anything done to the best of their abilities. Therefore, you can renew your sense of purpose by learning to celebrate your small victories; that way, you experience some gratification for the entire journey even if the finish line is distant.
You can appear lazy if you have nothing to prove; that is the nature of "content". If that's the case, then you have earned your downtime, and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Many successful people could benefit from reaching a content state; it is easy to become a slave to your ambitions. Things can go south if you are delusional in your content. You could be trapped in a toxic, debilitating environment or relationship and lack the motivation to free yourself.
Avoiding Unproductive Habits
No matter how much you try, your motivation levels will fluctuate; you will become lazy at some point. You shouldn't be striving for constant motivation; you should be seeking to develop productive habits. While you work, avoid procrastination and distraction. You may need to sacrifice things you enjoy, like going out or watching Tv, but that is the art of discipline. I have Asperger's syndrome and ADHD; concentration and focus can be difficult, but I can still keep it together. So can you.
Get into the habit of strategizing and planning your moves carefully, especially your long term outcomes. Overworking and taking on too many challenges will cause you to procrastinate and distract yourself. You don't want to bite off more than you can chew, and you don't want to be doing unnecessary work; both may happen if you refuse to plan.
If the task is unavoidable, and you can't do it alone, then get into the habit of asking for help. If you have dependable people around you, they can help relieve your burdens. Especially if they are people you don't trust, make sure it is the right people. Sometimes it does feel uncomfortable delegating responsibilities; losing that control can make you feel vulnerable.
However, it is also a bad habit to be overly reliant on your support systems. Getting other people to do your work is lazy. Make sure you're not just using people selfishly. I mentioned before that you need to be comfortable being your primary source of comfort and support; you should strive to stand on your own feet. Other people won't always be there for you, nor will they always care for your issues. Maybe I have become a cynic; throughout my life, I have had more toxic interactions with people than positive ones; it doesn't matter I have spoken my truth.